A lot of people are under the notion that boudoir sessions are only reserved for one single person to be in the session, and that’s just not the case! A couples boudoir session is a great way to enhance your relationship with your partner. Not only can participating in a boudoir shoot provide a great intimate experience for the both of you, but it also gives lasting (and sexy, BTW) memories to look back on.
When you book a couples boudoir session with me, it’s my goal to make your experience as seamless and fun as possible. Throughout your entire session, I’ll be working alongside you and your partner to ensure that you’re both feeling like the best versions of yourselves – all while making you feel confident and connected. Essentially, your job during the boudoir shoot is to feel comfortable and just enjoy connecting with your partner, and I’ll make sure that it’s captured beautifully.
Recently, I launched my boudoir client closet. My goal in launching this closet was to make sure that feeling like you didn’t have the right clothing or accessories wouldn’t hold clients back from having their dream boudoir session. But, another concern that I hear often from my clients is “What should my partner wear to our couples boudoir session?”
So, I decided to make an easy reference guide to take the stress out of it for you. There are a few general rules that everyone should follow when it comes to dressing your partner for the shoot.
Couples Boudoir Clothing Guide [Top 5 Tips]
Tip #1: Be Comfortable
The top priority is that both you and your partner should feel like yourself. So, while it’s totally fun (and encouraged if you’re up for it) to spice things up and step out of your shell – it’s still important that you both feel comfortable. My number one suggestion is to wear something that makes you feel AMAZING. The more comfortable and at ease you feel behind the camera, the more magic will show in your photos.
Tip #2: Matching Undergarments
You may have heard that you shouldn’t match during a boudoir shoot. And while that’s true (we’ll get to that in the next tip), here at STP we encourage bringing in a matching set of underwear or boxer briefs for you and your partner to wear. I usually encourage white, black, and gray. When it comes to the undergarment photos, simplicity is key. (Envision Calvin Klein model shoots).
Tip #3: Coordinate Your Outfits
Here is where being matchy-matchy is a don’t for couples boudoir. The matching undergarment photos turn out beautiful, but it can be a little much when you completely match your outfits. Instead, just have them coordinate and compliment each other. For your outfits, your partner could arrive in a suit or dress – you could also dress up and this will give you both an opportunity for some fun “undressing” photos to reveal your matching undergarments.
Tip #4: Add Accessories
Bring your favorite jewelry, and ladies – you and your partner can wear jewelry to compliment one another. Or, fellas – you can coordinate your pocket square, tie, or cufflinks to your partner’s outfit. Rock a snapback, cowboy hat, baseball cap – if that is what your partner typically wears, why not go for it? You can add accessories that make the shoot more formal for a more dressed up photo outcome, or dress it down for a more casual look. The possibilities are endless and here at STP, we are down for it.
Tip #5: Have FUN!
The most important thing to remember when you’re deciding what to style your partner in for your upcoming boudoir session is that this should be FUN. Regardless of what you decide to wear, it’s my job to make sure that you and your partner have such a special bonding experience that you will be able to share with each forever. Keep in mind, don’t stress too much over what you’re going to wear. After all… most of it is coming off anyways. 😀
STP Bonus Tip: Another favorite of mine – have your partner wear a pair of jeans with the boxer brief waistband pulled up slightly higher. Pair that with a button-up shirt that will coordinate with your lingerie outfit. If your partner prefers, they can also wear a sports bra under the button-up.
Boudoir Frequently Asked Questions
Q: What exactly is a couples boudoir session?
A: During a couples boudoir session with Samantha Turner Photography, I strive to let a romantic organic experience happen between couples. I provide cues and posing tips when needed to ensure quality, beautiful photos.
Q: How do you pose for couples boudoir?
A: The goal of couples boudoir is to duplicate your natural interactions with your partner. There is no right or wrong for posing. If you are connecting intimately with your partner – you’re posing right! I make adjustments with posing to make sure there is optimal lighting and you’re getting the best photo possible.
Q: How do I prepare for my couples boudoir session?
A: There is no right or wrong way to come to your couples boudoir shoot with STP. When it comes to grooming, do whatever you and your partner are comfortable with. I do suggest eating light food beforehand so that you are not hungry, but also not overly full. (Nobody likes sexy time when you’re feeling bloated, let’s be honest).
Q: Why should I do a boudoir shoot?
A: I always encourage boudoir sessions if you have never done them before. Boudoir may make you feel vulnerable, but I promise by the time you leave a session with me you will feel empowered, confident, and even more connected with your partner. BUT, don’t take my word for it… check out some kind words left by my past clients here.
If you want to browse some of my previous boudoir sessions, you can view my portfolio here, or click here to contact me.